When people go out on dates, should they have sex? What if they have sex on the first date – will they be respected after the sexual adventure is over? Another common question is whether sex on dates is right or wrong.
There are two sides to the question. First, you may feel like having sex on the first date is the dignity thing to do. In that case, no-sex-on- Dates is the right move for you.
The other side of the question is that when you have sex on the first date, is it going to be seen as rude and crass by the woman you meet? How do you know?
Well, the thing is that a lot of people have sex on the first date. I would not be surprised if that is in the high 90% category. So, if you drink a lot, you may want to hold the beer, wine or liquor.
If you do not drink, then you may want to think about switching to another beverage at the same time. I would not recommend beer or alcohol. I would recommend trying coffee, tea or a concoction containing Chinese herbs and spices. Chinese herbs and spices will open your gates to a whole new world of wonder.
If you do drink, then knowing what you are drinking will not be a problem. You can still be classy and not make a fool of yourself. You can drink and still act like a real man.
As for the second question, it is best to stress that it is up to the woman to decide if sex on the first date is right for her. Many men who have failed in the past have learned to their late for this and know what the best strategies are.
Remember, she has already invested a lot of time into the relationship, she would not want to lose that investment. Therefore, it is better to play it safe and not put too much weight on the sex thing. You could show your romantic intent and still not go ahead because if you do, it becomes a kind of a preview for the next date and that is just not sexy.
You have to learn to negotiate and get to know the person first before deciding what kind of a man you are. It may be that you feel on the whole, it is either one or two degrees of jerks. If the sex is really good, it will only be seen as a bonus. If it is supposed to be a date, then you will be looking forward to the time when you won’t be having sex but instead, you will be enjoying each other’s company.
Be confident. If you feel that there is something wrong with you, then that is the end of it. The best strategy is to be right in the middle of it. If you are confident, the other person will sense it. If they are not, they must show some kind of interest.
Don’t be afraid to initiate the topic. Instead, show the person that you are comfortable being verbal about things. If it is not your first time, you can just as easily be verbal when talking to someone else. It is okay to be silly and say something like “that’s just gag reflex..” or “that’s just the third time..” It is okay to laugh and she will be giggling with you, not to mention the chortle that comes with the intimidation.
Begin to touch her. If she is uncomfortable with this, then you will not succeed and you will just take away half your work. But if you properly introduce the subject, then you can gain the majority of the momentum and then just let things come natural.
Learn from the other couples. How they introduce the topic? What kind of physical signs do they make? How do their faces change when they first say something? If you are not sure, just watch.
Watch how she reacts to you. Observers say that watching couples working on a romantic date often is just fabulous. To add to what is already said in this article, couples who win in lovemaking are the best versions of themselves. And when you are watching them, you will not just see, but feel the true essence of what Kama Sutra is supposed to teach.
